You may be struggling with many difficult feelings if you have fertility problems. Complex and often painful emotions are common for people with fertility problems, those who can’t have children and those having fertility treatment.
” People can feel guilt, fear and anger,” says Clare Brown, chief executive of Infertility Network UK, an infertility support network. “They can feel as though they’ve failed. People talk about feeling less of a woman, or less of a man. Depression and anxiety are common. Fertility treatment can be an intensely stressful experience. Most of us never imagine experiencing problems with having a child. When it happens, it’s a terrible shock.”
For those whose fertility problems prevent them from having children, there can be a sense of loss or grief. Brown says: “It’s almost a kind of bereavement for the child that this person expected to have. We can build our future around a plan to have children, and suddenly it’s taken away.”
Not all people who experience fertility problems feel this way. The 1.5 million people affected by fertility problems have all kinds of responses, says Brown. But for those who find themselves tackling difficult emotions, there is help.